If you can’t think of a single reason to stay with your spouse, remember that Jesus went to the Cross for you when you were useless to Him. He kept His covenant with you when you didn’t give Him a single reason to. ••• Do you feel like your marriage is hanging on by its … Continue reading Resurrecting Your Marriage
Choose Joy Today
One thing we have learned is that it is really fun to be super silly with each other. To laugh and to cause laughter. But most of all to choose joy when Satan is screaming the opposite. ••• Today is the day to dance in the kitchen. To go on a walk and call a … Continue reading Choose Joy Today
Fear is a liar.
The future is a stranger, but if the two of you focus on the One who holds your future then neither of you will have to worry about what it may hold. ••• Fear... Whew... Fear is such a liar yet is sometimes so easy to believe. It is so easy to freak out when … Continue reading Fear is a liar.
stop participating in the problem
If you see a problem in your marriage, you don’t stop participating in your marriage, you stop participating in the problem. ••• Sometimes it is easy to draw back and not communicate when we are frustrated with our spouse. It’s easy to listen to that little voice telling us, “Well I’m just not going to … Continue reading stop participating in the problem
God is looking out for your Marriage
The most guaranteed way to turn your marriage away from destruction is to choose to turn yourself away from sin. ••• It is so important in marriage to remember that sin is not just avoiding those big, “no nos.” Sin is disobedience, too. It’s not just avoiding things like adultery, it is also ignoring the … Continue reading God is looking out for your Marriage
Choose to Get Rid of Baggage
The intent of today is to help you understand some of the relationship patterns you may have brought into your marriage from your childhood and your previous relationships. With knowledge of these patterns, you can learn positive strategies and stop using ineffective ones. Learning to change old patterns involves recognizing where you are in the … Continue reading Choose to Get Rid of Baggage
Choose to Forgive
Because of the necessity to forgive one another in any relationship we have, we are going to spell out what forgiveness looks like. There are four steps that couples need to learn in order to forgive. They are essential elements in the developmental process of forgiveness. An authentic apology is the first step in the … Continue reading Choose to Forgive
Choose To Listen
Changing how you speak to each other, when you speak to each other, and where you speak to each other are important for building success in your marriage. Focusing on how you both feel rather than winning the argument and listening to your partner so that you truly understand what they want you to know … Continue reading Choose To Listen
Choose to Focus on the Process
As we discussed on Day One, conflict is not a bad thing. What is important is how we deal with it. One of the biggest myths about marriage is that fights “just happen”; that they are random, unpredictable events. Instead, I believe that people make a conscious, deliberate choice when they decide to turn a … Continue reading Choose to Focus on the Process
Marriage Is About Choice
The big idea behind the transformation of your marriage is that you can make choices in key areas to heal it. You are in control of the conflicts that occur in your relationship. Conflict, in and of itself, is not a bad thing. What is important is how we deal with it. Conflicts will happen, … Continue reading Marriage Is About Choice