Day 7. Checking In

Accountability check: How are you doing at saying nothing negative—either to your person or about them to somebody else? Look back on the past week, identify any cases where youwere negative, despite your efforts. List those in a journal or notebook. Next to each, identify the reasons you slipped up ("I'm so tempted to join in when … Continue reading Day 7. Checking In

Day 6. Everyone Makes Mistakes: Be Supportive

Everyone makes mistakes, and is touched by unconditional support and encouragement—especially when they don't deserve it. The next time your person suffers consequences from a mistake (gets a bad grade on a test, embarrassed in a meeting, mentions the criticism they got from their spouse), offer your unconditional support and/or encouragement with no mention of … Continue reading Day 6. Everyone Makes Mistakes: Be Supportive

Day 3. Deferential Disagreement

Today, don't argue with your person. Unless it is something life-or-business-altering, defer to them instead. Politely and positively let them know that although you disagree, you're fine with doing it their way. ("Although my personal preference is to log the students' science fair projects this other way, I know you've thought this through so let's … Continue reading Day 3. Deferential Disagreement