We need to realize that what we often want is not what scripture gives us. What we want, are answers to our day-to-day questions. How can I better communicate with my wife? Like, what do you do when you grab dinner on your way home and then you find out that your wife prepared a … Continue reading The Indwelling Teacher
Month: May 2019
Living by the Covenant
Live by the covenant and not by your mood. Part of the challenge of marriage is that people tend to be consumed with how they feel in the moment instead of the covenant conviction. The key to a marriage is that it is not about you, but about God’s glory. How do I die to … Continue reading Living by the Covenant
Living in Faith, Not Fear
Sometimes, young couples say they want to have a strong marriage and family life because they come from a background where the marriage wasn’t solid. A broken home brought them a lot of pain and heartache, so they’re worried about repeating that. They think, “I don’t have a good model that I grew up in, … Continue reading Living in Faith, Not Fear
It’s Your Turn
I think marriage is like everything else important in life. Eventually we have to make a choice. It happens with the most important decision in this life when we choose whether or not to follow Christ. In marriage, we have to choose to be in or out. You can choose to just exist in a … Continue reading It’s Your Turn
The Get Lost Date
Words to Grow On I can never escape from your Spirit! I can never get away from your presence! PSALM 139:7 At the end of time, when all history culminates in the final pages of the Bible, what will we find God doing? Spending time with His children. Making His home with them. Being together. … Continue reading The Get Lost Date
The Boxing Ring
I remember a time in our marriage that I thought if there were professional marriage fighters, we could probably turn pro. We fought a lot. We had no idea how to fight fair. We did the win / lose thing. We fought about the same things over and over and had no clue how to … Continue reading The Boxing Ring
“Is It Worth It?”
Thomas and Alison both came from broken homes. After a really good first year of marriage, life together began to have rough patches. By the end of year three, there were a lot more tough days than good days. They found themselves at a crossroads. They could take the path their parents took and get … Continue reading “Is It Worth It?”
“Selfishness”
It took me a long time to admit that I was being selfish in my marriage. Let me say that a different way. I knew that I was being selfish, I just did not want to admit it. I wanted to see myself as a generous, thoughtful person who would never be selfish to my … Continue reading “Selfishness”
Have You Ever Fought for Something?
Some of us are fighters. We grew up having to fight for what we wanted and what we believed in. Fighting was just a part of our lives. We were willing to fight because we had a vision of the end result. We knew that with hard work we could accomplish the things we wanted. … Continue reading Have You Ever Fought for Something?
Unity
If you watch any military shows or movies, you’ve probably heard a general or soldier yelling, “They’re trying to flank us!” In military tactics, this is where the enemy will try to attack from the side or from behind. The reason troops don’t want to get flanked is because it forces them to divide their … Continue reading Unity