Mark loves his coffee. I love Mark, but I’m not particularly fond of his coffee. It seems I find coffee rings and coffee splotches everywhere. In the car. On the floor. On the table beside his chair (he takes the concept of “coffee table” to a whole new level!). After years of dealing with his … Continue reading God-tool of grace
Forgiveness is a term we’re all familiar with, but it’s likely the most underused tool in our toolbox. In fact, if you’re married, you probably need to be using your God-tool of forgiveness well over a dozen times a day! This multi-faceted tool is how we handle imperfections—our spouses and our own. It’s also how … Continue reading Forgiveness is not….
We’re Mark and Jill Savage. We’ve been married thirty-four years, twenty-four of them happily. While that seems like an odd way to start a devotional, it’s honest, and probably not so far off from what you’ve experienced in your imperfect marriage. The blending of two lives into one relationship is hard work. It’s complicated. At … Continue reading The Slow Fade
Do you feel like you're losing in marriage? I know I did, especially early on. Emotionally and mentally I felt Wynter wasn't meeting some expectation or wasn't fulfilling a need for me. I locked down my emotional energy on waiting for her to change and do what I wanted her to do. I wanted Wynter to … Continue reading Growing In Patience
Many couples choose not to fight for their marriage because they already feel like they lost. They aren’t happy or satisfied with where they are, so they begin to opt out emotionally, physically, and spiritually. They look at their partner and conclude that they aren’t carrying their end of the bargain or they don’t bring … Continue reading Choosing Joy Over Happiness
Two months after Wynter died suddenly in my arms on July 24, 2018, I uttered these words to my counselor as I thought about my gratitude for the 15 years of marriage we fought for with deference and honor: “It wasn’t perfect, but it was intentional.” It was my thank you to the Lord for His … Continue reading An Intentional Marriage