Everyone makes mistakes, and is touched by unconditional support and encouragement—especially when they don’t deserve it. The next time your person suffers consequences from a mistake (gets a bad grade on a test, embarrassed in a meeting, mentions the criticism they got from their spouse), offer your unconditional support and/or encouragement with no mention of what your person did wrong. (“I’m so sorry you ended up with such a bad grade on that test, honey. In the next week, do you want me to help you email the teacher about any extra work you can do to bring your grade up?”)
‘For God is not unjust so as to forget your work and the love which you have shown toward His name, in having ministered and in still ministering to the saints. ‘ Hebrews 6:10
Coach’s Corner: Avoid the temptation to correct or criticize (e.g. “But next time you’ll have to study earlier.”) That sort of corrective statement can come later—after the person sees your unconditional support—and only if absolutely necessary.