We need to realize that what we often want is not what scripture gives us. What we want, are answers to our day-to-day questions. How can I better communicate with my wife? Like, what do you do when you grab dinner on your way home and then you find out that your wife prepared a meal? You eat it. It will be the best pound or two you gain in your life. These are the sort of issues we’d like to talk about.
This is not what God gives us in His word. When you look at the marriage-specific passages, that is not the focus. When you get to these passages in the New Testament, they come at the end of long passages that deal with larger issues about salvation, and then when they get to the marriage issues, they are surprisingly brief and simple. Contrast that to what you see when you walk into a bookstore and you see the marriage section. What do you see? You see lots of volumes that deal with marriage. Contrast also with the hunger you find from people to go to marriage seminar weekends, videos, and talks, bringing home books. I understand the desire. I just want you to see the contrast between the amounts we give to this subject in book form versus the focus it’s given in the word of God.
When we believe in the sufficiency of Scripture, it allows us to believe that the Scripture not only supplies our answers but guides us in our questions. If we will discipline ourselves to ask the questions the Scripture raises, then we will find that the Scripture supplies the answers to the questions it raises.
You will also find that when you embrace what Scripture does reveal, it is amazing how the indwelling truth teacher, how the indwelling Christ our Lord will guide us to respond to these practical issues that we face in our day-to-day lives. In other words, if you get the big things right, it’s amazing how God takes care of the smaller things.
‘But as for you, speak the things which are fitting for sound doctrine. Older men are to be temperate, dignified, sensible, sound in faith, in love, in perseverance. Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored. Likewise urge the young men to be sensible; ‘ TITUS 2:1-6