If you want to touch your wife deeply, look into her soul through her eyes. She’s longing for intimate conversation! Touching base by phone is fine, but for a woman, that’s like watching an old black-and-white TV.
One of her top romantic needs is to be heard and understood by her man. She longs for openness, a sharing of dreams, hopes, desires, and even disappointments, through focused conversation.
You might be thinking, Time out, Dennis! A conversationalist? I’m a man of few words.
Funny, that’s what Moses said when God asked him to be His spokesman: “Moses said to the LORD,‘O Lord, I have never been eloquent, neither in the past nor since you have spoken to your servant. I am slow of speech and tongue” (Ex. 4:10). And what did the Lord tell him? “Who gave man his mouth? Who makes him deaf or mute? . . . Now go; I will help you speak and will teach you what to say” (vv. 11, 12).
You may say, “Now that’s fine for Moses leading the nation of Israel, but will God give me words to better communicate with your wife?” My answer: Absolutely. He cares about your wife and your marriage. The Holy Spirit still guides men (and women) in what they need to say.
Are you wondering how this is going to work? It’s easier than you may think. Start by praying and asking God to help you. Then practice answering your wife’s questions with more than one sentence. It’s okay if there’s silence for a while, but work on really sharing with her on an intimate level what you are thinking and feeling. And if you don’t know, keep on praying and asking God to help you. He will. And He may use your wife to do it!
Then Moses said to the Lord , “Please, Lord, I have never been eloquent, neither recently nor in time past, nor since You have spoken to Your servant; for I am slow of speech and slow of tongue.” The Lord said to him, “Who has made man’s mouth? Or who makes him mute or deaf, or seeing or blind? Is it not I, the Lord ? Now then go, and I, even I, will be with your mouth, and teach you what you are to say.”
EXODUS 4:10-12 NASB